“What seems to be the problem?”
In English
there’s this fabulous expression “What seems to be the problem?”. Words are
just words, and each one of us is entitled to hear/read/write or speak them in
any way we find best fits our purpose. It’s not the form that determines the
content, but the content that determines the form – just as it is with our
Human form, which is determined by our Essence… if we allow so to BE.
Well, let
me explain why I find this expression so fabulous. To me it says that in actual
fact there is no problem, there just seems to be a problem. And that, my dear
friends and readers, is what truly happens in life. A so called problem for me
is not for you and vice versa. We all have our biased vision of reality, in the
sense that we attach emotion, weight, meaning to whatever it is that pleases or
bothers us, according to our “experience library”. Therefore in essence, a
problem is just an illusion, it all depends on the point of view. That’s why we
have such a supportive role for each other. If you tell me what seems to be the
problem for you, probably, since it is not my drama, I will see it in a new way
and if you truly want to solve it, I will lead you to see several solutions
that you could not see from your limited point of observation, attached as you
were to the “problem” itself, and lacking a larger perspective. The same, of
course, would happen if you looked at what I was judging as a “problem”. This
means that “what seems to be the problem?” also sets the stage for the
realization that I am open to listen to what the problem seems to be in your
perspective, but I am also open to offer a different perspective, a cooperative
view that wants to solve, not perpetuate.
From my
observation, many times the real problem is that a person might not really be
interested in solving a so called problem. In many cases there is more of a
need for attention, than for resolution. In this case, any solutions given are
immediately refuted by numerous excuses as to why that could not be the way to
go. The person presenting solutions then feels more and more exhausted as the
conversation goes on, the other person feels better and better, though not
willing to release the “problem paradigm”, and then, when these people finally
go their separate ways, the one who saw no problem at all, now has a problem: feeling
depleted, exhausted to the bone, and why? Because this is one of the many ways
in which victim consciousness functions, it is one of the many effective ways
to obtain an injection of energy from another – what we generally call
“feeding”.
It is,
nevertheless, very simple to disconnect from this kind of “feeding” game. You
shall see, at the very beginning of the conversation, if the aim is to clear
and resolve or just to perpetuate and consume. Then you can choose whether you
want to be someone else’s “lunch” or keep your integrity and move on, using
your energy for more worthy purposes. The same happens, of course, when you are
the “problem child” of the moment. First look inside, release your mind through
conscious breath, become Present, observe yourself, let new perspectives come
to you, and then, if necessary and only if you are willing to truly resolve a
“problem” you may engage in a healthy and creative exchange with another, and
both will be feeling energized and fulfilled at the end of your productive
conversation.
Pois É!!!AMIGA,
ResponderEliminarO problema está em nós, porque o criamos e o alimentamos, projectando-o sob variadíssimas plásticas imagéticas!!!
O "problema" (con)some aquela Energia Vital, que nos "permite" ampliar a Alegria de SER_VIDA!!!
Artemis
Ora que bem dito! Obrigada pela partilha ;)
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