Aspects of Personality are created to interact with the
world, be it the world of others or our own with ourselves. These are the parts
of us that perceive reality and respond to it accordingly. They can be clear,
in which case they are created for a purpose and diluted as soon as the purpose
disappears. We use these clear Aspects for simple things like making tea or
brushing our teeth, getting dressed or cooking a meal. Depending on our
memories of these things, which at some point may have created a minor trauma,
these Aspects come and go or remain fixed in their ways, thus being a bit less
than totally clear. Aspects become stuck to the extent of our sensory memory’s
recollection of emotional trauma and this could relate to a simple thing like
getting burnt while frying an egg, thus generating a self-protective attitude
towards this activity or something more emotionally charged like having a car
accident and becoming afraid to drive in certain circumstances that might seem
similar to that prior occasion.
The reason why it serves us well to break habits is the
flexible flow of clear Aspects, as we practice becoming detached from a certain
outcome and are able to experience and let go moment to moment. It shows us how
to live an emotionally balanced stream of experiences, in total self-respect
towards our integrity, in harmony with our expanded awareness, not giving heed
to energy “gobblers” like worry or fear…. Yes, “gobblers” – all these Aspects
do is gobble up your energy in order to keep on creating perceptions of fear
and worry, leaving you feeling as depleted as a banquet after the guests have
all gone home J
And the largest “gobblers” are not the ones you notice, they are the ones you
don’t even realise are there pulling all the strings and making all of the
decisions, making you feel good sometimes, bad sometimes or somewhere in
between, like for instance the Spiritual Mind or False Essence I have spoken
about recently. It also stems from fear, of course, but keeps that well hidden.
As to these energy “gobbling” Aspects, what we call the
stuck ones, these create the noise inside. The voices that speak to each other
in our heads, that sometimes agree more than others and vice versa. They
invariably become stuck as a self-protection mechanism, shielding us from
possible pain through the fear trigger which withholds many different types of
emotions, depending on the issue at hand. In other words, they are the need to
have things under control, even if it ultimately can translate into panic
attacks or whatever other reactions of loss of control may appear. The purpose
is always self-preservation, which is in any case quite different from
self-respect and requires huge amounts of our energy to sustain.
May it be clear that our purpose with life on Earth is to
create (Aspects and all else to interact with form and the formless), experience
and expand or transcend, which means to integrate into the infinite pool of
Isness we ultimately begin and end to BE. Thus Aspects of Personality are
necessary in all shapes and colours and their ultimate purpose is always to come
back to the pool of Expanded Awareness, the God-Self that Is, adding to it the
vast richness of experiences, free from the illusionary trappings of adversity,
drops of pure Consciousness with no emotional affiliation. This is what happens
when any Aspect integrates. Its “story” is dissolved and its Wisdom is added to
the Whole Oneness of Essence, expanding it further – whatever this expansion
truly means cannot fully be explained in words.
All of this to say that no matter how stubborn some of these
Aspects of ours become, when invited to integrate, they will… eventually. And
the reason I say eventually is because for this to happen you have to lead by
example, meaning you have to trust that your Essence is All that Is, the
Oneness that is God also, connected to the Whole of Isness. You have to prove that
these Aspects are no longer serving a purpose in your Life. This is something
Aspects hold very dearly - after all their purpose is to serve a purpose!!!! If
you keep on falling prey to their ways of perceiving and acting towards
situations they will still be fulfilling a purpose and cannot, therefore,
integrate. So you see, with the Spiritual Mind that makes us feel like we are
listening to Essence, creating a sense of expansion even, one doesn’t even feel
like inviting it to integrate because it feels so good, necessary and
appropriate – how is it ever going to come back home?... When you acknowledge
its existence and decide to really want to feel and listen to the love of the
Essence, becoming more and more aware of the difference between one and the
other.
One of the most subtle traps with stuck Aspects is wanting
to force them to integrate. This stems from judgement and creates a battle
inside. A war against yourself. No matter how much you repeat that “it is
enough” and that you no longer want this kind of behaviour/experience, you need
to prove it by not reacting in the same stuck way when faced with the same
types of situations which keep on coming and going – they are a gift, a
blessing, not a misfortune! They are your opportunity to listen to your Essence
and to learn a new way, to trust and let go of what you (your Aspects) knew to
be true.
I have seen it happen so often that a person chooses to
integrate a part they finally recognise as no longer serving a purpose
according to what they are now choosing to experience, only to go ahead and do
it all over again (act/think in the exact same way) without even being aware of
it. And, some time after realising this and becoming rather angry and
frustrated at themselves, lost in judgement and wanting to force things to
change. This, in any case, rather than integrating Aspects makes them much stronger
and much harder to discern, more subtle and manipulative.
Patience, Acceptance, Transparence, Humility… Compassion…
Compassion… Compassion, Perseverance, Courage, TRUST, Compassion… Awareness,
Letting go, Silence, Compassion…
Aspects need to feel, words will not convince them of
anything. Your trust needs to be felt and no amount of controlling, manipulating,
forcing, or analysing will do the “trick”. Much on the contrary, it will
validate the Aspects because this is how they function and you cannot beat an Aspect
at its game.
So it’s quite simple really! J
Just get out of your own way and let you come back to You J
Just a footnote here to say that I refer to Aspect as “they”
because they are parts, not the One and each one has a purpose, which is in
other words “a mind of its own”, so it’s like a whole tribe with many different
purposes, all performing to the best of their capacity. Quite a colourful party
going on inside! hehehe
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