From Seductive Manipulation
to BEING WHO YOU ARE
Since birth we learn to interact with the world through
seductive manipulation in order to obtain the energy we need to survive in the physical
world. It assumes the form of need. Need for acceptance, need for recognition,
need for attention. These “need” mechanisms are in fact “feed” mechanisms. It is
through them that we obtain precious energy from each other. This is the permanent
cycle of energy abuse, in which the victim and the abuser are one and the same
thing, either playing one role or the other in order to perpetuate the cycle.
Nevertheless, whether we assume one role or the other doesn’t really matter. It
all boils down to obtaining the energy we think we need in order to survive in
this world.
What if, one day yo start awakening from this illusion of
need? What if you realise you can generate your own energy? What if you decide
to stop the cycle?
Then a whole new journey begins. It is a journey of awareness,
the journey of BEcoming WHO YOU ARE.
This requires permanent PRESENCE, permanent AWARENESS of
where you are at in each moment, with relation to yourself and with relation to
the world around you. It requires complete DETERMINATION and above all, it
requires TRUST in the process of BEcoming, no matter how long it takes, no
matter what it takes in order to break the cycle.
The first step is respecting your own energy. The only reason
you need acceptance is because you don’t accept yourself entirely. The only reason
you need recognition is because you don’t recognise yourself entirely. The only
reason you need attention is because you don’t give yourself enough of it. This
builds up the illusion that you need to obtain these things somewhere outside
of you. And it keeps you tied up into a never ending revolving circle of energy
abuse – be it you removing energy from others, or them from you. And energy can
be formless or have form (like money, houses, cars etc etc etc).
I will leave it to your own discerning wisdom to realise how
you do it. How and when do you use seductive manipulation in your life? How do
you do it at work? How do you do it with your friends and acquaintances? How do
you do it with your lovers or romantic partner? How do you do it with people in
general? How do you do it with yourself: with your body – your space, with your
mind, with your time, with your things (money and everything else)? How far do
you respect your energy? How do you let it be taken from you? Why do you let it
be taken from you – what is there in it for you, what do you obtain in exchange?
Just so you can recognise it better, energy abuse makes you
feel depleted, tired, it gives you a belly ache, it gives you stomach ache, it
makes you feel uncomfortable in your body, it makes your heart feel heavy, it
makes you feel confused, sometimes lost and depressed, sad and forlorn, apathic
and sometimes even numb. These are just some of the consequences and you may
feel one or some of them at any given moment of or after an imbalanced energy “transfusion”.
While you are living in this permanent self recycling “energy
stealing” game you are not aware of it. It works through the psychological mind,
convincing you of your weaknesses and needs. It makes you go round the bend and
back again and you don’t usually even notice it. Why? Because everyone is doing
it! It seems the normal way to be, the normal thing to do. You are not even
aware that it is “energy stealing” that is going on.
And you (your needy and fearful, small parts) are your
greatest energy “feeders”. These dark parts of yourself that tell you stories
of lack take up a huge amount of your precious energy in order to play their
fear games. They (you!!!) use yourself to keep on running around in a vicious
cycle of “not enoughness”, be it
whatever it may be.
So take a look at these voices in your head. What stories are
they telling you about your smallness, your inadequacy, your imperfectness,
your not enoughness (as I call it ;)
).
And then, what games do you play with others which bring you
the recognition, acceptance and attention you deem to need when coming from
your not enoughness?
Seductive manipulation occurs in many fields of interaction.
And it occurs very strongly when it comes to sex. Sex is a fabulous
interaction, when balanced. Unfortunately it is majorly used to obtain energy.
This is where the seductive manipulation gains huge and creative proportions. It
happens everywhere, every day. Sex is mainly used as a manipulation tool,
rather than the creative energy exchange it is meant to be. Rather than the fusion
of both person’s body, mind and soul in a balanced exchange of joy and love, in
sheer celebration of being alive, it is usually a combination of a good workout
with many calorie burning properties, paired with a way to obtain something (we
aren’t even aware of exactly what) that we feel we need. And in the end it
feels good. But only temporarily. It is like any other drug. Then you need to
obtain more. A balanced sexual (I usually call it sensual) experience leaves you
completely fulfilled, with no cravings whatsoever. It is also way more intense
than any other form of sexual intercourse. Because it is done from the heart,
which is wide open, with all of the feeling sensors wide open, with all of the
senses wide open, with all of you PRESENT in the moment. And so its intensity
surpasses anything else. That’s why it is scary. It makes you feel vulnerable
and exposed, which isn’t a problem if you have nothing to hide from yourself,
and therefore from anyone else. But, if you have many parts of yourself hidden
from you, then it is a major challenge. Fear comes in and puts a lid on the
heart and BAM! Game over. You are back in the seductive manipulation game all
over again.
I chose to pore over the issue of sex a little bit more than
anything else because it is one of the most effective energy “feeding”
strategies, and probably one of the least acknowledged ones as such.
So here it is. Clear and simple J
Once you break the code and become really determined to end
this cycle, life changes. Maybe some hopes and dreams you had in the past die.
Maybe your friends change. Maybe your job changes. Maybe your intimate
relationship (s) change (s). You certainly change. And therefore everything
else changes… for the better. Better even than you could ever possibly dream of!!!!
You then have an infinite supply of energy directly from the
Source of Isness within you and it is so infinitely abundant that you don’t need
to keep it just for yourself. You can share it abundantly because it overflows.
And you can share it just because. Not for recognition, not for acceptance, not
for attention. Just for the joy of BEING. You will no longer need to seduce and
manipulate. That will no longer exist in you since the parts of you who did
that will no longer exist so you won’t even know how to do it anymore. You will
have no needs because energy shall naturally serve your Isness and bring you
everything and everyone to live a life of permanente fulfilment. You shall
attract all not because you need to, just because you glow so much that it is a
pleasure to be in your presence. And energy shall serve your Isness, your
Grandness, not your lack.
As to sex, since you no longer need it, you can choose to
play with it only when it is balanced and fulfilling. The same goes with
relationships of any kind. You will no longer need others, though you will love
to enjoy sharing life with others for the excitement of BEING LOVE, in LOVE…
Freely reveling in it all. Then you ARE WHO YOU ARE and that suffices in
itself.
And so it is J
